This has been a year of change and trying to quickly adapt. We have all been doing our best to keep getting everything done in the midst of a chaotic election year, pandemic, and movement for social justice.
I have taken this year to dive deeper into healing trauma, my own, my family’s, clients, and thinking about healing as communities. I have been fortunate to spend this year reading, practicing, and exploring the connection between physical touch and presence and acting as a witness for the healing of others.
There are a few articles I’ve come across that seem worth sharing. We’ve been moving through the uncertainty and ambiguities of the pandemic for so long, it’s important – still – to recognize, for ourselves, and those we share space with, that our struggles are not easy.
That a resolution is not yet here. But you’re also not alone, however separate we have to be.
Tara Haelle’s article “Your Surge Capacity is Depleted” focuses on the work of Ann Masten, PhD, who explains surge capacity within the context of this damn year being what it is.
She says, “Surge capacity is a collection of adaptive systems – mental and physical – that humans draw on for short-term survival in acutely stressful situations… what happens when your surge capacity is depleted because acute has become chronic?”
And this article on wbrc.com: Dr. Joshua Klapow talks about knowing you’ve reached your SC limits when you experience restless sleep, feelings of distraction, difficulty concentrating, or being easily irritated. When you are feeling these things the best thing you can do is take a break and “recalibrate”.
And then there’s this fantastic podcast on Burnout with Brene’ Brown, and Emily and Amelia Nagoski on recalibrating to recover and remain resilient.
In short, don’t beat yourself up for feeling overwhelmed or depleted right now. We’re in the middle of a once in a lifetime experience that no one is prepared for or knows how to hangle. Instead, grab a 20-minute nerve “tonic” session with me via Zoom. Because it’s easier to find 20-minutes to yourself than an hour these days. And unlike your other meetings, you can hang out in your PJs.
Our new 20-minute offering is a modified version of Transforming the Experience-based Brain, focusing on what Stephen Terrell calls the “triangle of regulation”. Essentially, my goal is to support you in settling your nervous system, so that you can replenish and recalibrate your capacities.
And if you’re needing ways to reset with those you share space with, try our coFLO modern partner massage techniques tutorials. In our sessions, we’ll teach you how to effectively use touch to ease aches and pains – physical and mental – of those you share space with. Our goal is to use the minimal amount of effort to produce the greatest relief. This is also done via Zoom.